Back-to-School Anxiety: How to Support Kids and Parents

Jessica Ruiz, LPC

6 months ago

Back-to-School Anxiety

As the summer winds down and school supplies hit the shelves, many families feel the excitement—and the stress—that comes with a new school year. While back-to-school season can be a fresh start, it can also bring about anxiety for both kids and parents. At Serenity Counseling Center, we understand how these transitions can impact emotional well-being. Whether it’s a child’s fear of the unknown or a parent’s pressure to “get everything right,” here are some ways to support your family through this season with confidence and compassion.

Understanding Back-to-School Anxiety

Back-to-school anxiety can manifest in many forms:

For children: trouble sleeping, stomachaches, irritability, crying spells, or refusal to go to school.
For teens: social anxiety, academic pressure, or performance-related stress.
For parents: guilt, overwhelm, financial pressure, or concern for a child’s mental and emotional health.

These feelings are valid—and more common than you may think. Acknowledging them is the first step toward managing them.

Tips to Help Kids Cope

Here are some practical ways to help your child feel more secure and supported:

1. Start a Routine Early

Begin shifting into the school schedule at least a week in advance. Consistent sleep and mealtimes help regulate mood and ease the transition.

2. Visit the School

If possible, attend open houses, walk the school halls, and meet teachers. Familiarity breeds comfort.

3. Normalize the Nerves

Let your child know that it’s okay to feel nervous. Share a story of a time when you felt nervous and how you got through it.

4. Role-Play Common Scenarios

Practice greetings, locker combinations, or what to do if they feel overwhelmed. Giving them tools in advance helps reduce anxiety.

5. Watch for Warning Signs

Be mindful of consistent patterns of distress—like refusing to attend school or sudden mood changes—and seek professional support when needed.

Support for Parents, Too

Parental anxiety is real. Between supply lists, early wake-up times, and extracurricular schedules, it’s easy to feel overstretched.

Here’s how you can care for yourself during this time:

1. Practice Self-Compassion

You’re doing your best. Give yourself grace during this transition—and let go of perfection.

2. Connect with Community

Talk to other parents, teachers, or mental health professionals. You’re not alone.

3. Limit Information Overload

Social media and parenting blogs can heighten anxiety. Filter your intake and focus on what works for your family.

4. Know When to Ask for Help

If anxiety becomes overwhelming for you or your child, don’t hesitate to reach out to a counselor or therapist.